Friday, March 14, 2008

puke happens.

Bumblebee has figured out how to suck on her fingers lately. Not the thumb, mind you; just the fingers. Unfortunately, this means that she will often stick a few fingers into her mouth a little too deep and stimulate her gag reflex.

I think it’s obvious where this is going.

As I tell Bee constantly, sometimes Mama has needs too. For example, sometimes I need to pee. Badly. So I usually lay her down, do my business, and return. Today, soon after I’d changed her into her outfit for the day, I set her on the newly-washed bouncy seat and went to the bathroom.

I heard the telltale sound of retching and emerged from my urinary experience to find her covered in spit-up. With her head turned to the side, no less, so that it could get everywhere as much as possible. Deep in her ears, down her front, seeping down her neck and back, sticking her hair to the back of her head. She realized I was standing there, staring at her, and greeted me with the hugest, grossest, pukiest smile I’ve ever seen, spit-up evident in her mouth and dribbling down her chin.

Oh, babies.

product review: ama'z padz.

I dunno if any of you nursing mamas out there are copious leakers like me, but if so, you’re probably interested in nursing pads. As for disposables, I think that Lansinoh makes a good nursing pad, and I hear their Ultra-Soft ones are good though I haven’t tried them. But! I am not a fan of using them. Two reasons: 1) I have to keep buying more all the damn time, and 2) I hate that they’re individually wrapped. This feature is probably nice for moms on the go, but for moms who stay put like me, it means a crapload of useless plastic wrap. (The wrap is recyclable, at least!)

I’ve tried a few different random washable nursing pads and haven’t been impressed, as they haven’t lasted more than 3 hours. But this week, I’ve used nursing pads bought from Ama’z Padz - a website that sells cloth menstrual pads. THUMBS UP, ladies! These lovely washable pads are not only pretty, but DAMN do they absorb a lot of milk. If you’ve used Lansinoh’s disposables, you know they can hold a decent amount, and I can go through a pair or two in a night. Ama’z nursing padz, on the other hand, will last me the whole night and through the next day as well. I bought 4 pairs, which is perfect. I do Bumblebee’s laundry every other day, so those 4 pairs will take me through to the next laundry day and then get washed with her stuff. They can be washed and dried normally - I use hot water and high heat without trouble.

I was also pretty happy with the customer service. I e-mailed Janet, the woman behind Ama’z Padz, asking her how to order, and she told me to check her site Mondays at 1 pm. Three weeks in a row, I missed the stocking, and when I’d sign on the following day, everything was sold out. I figured that my Lansinohs were working out fine, and I had a bunch of those left anyway, so I left it alone. Janet e-mailed me last Sunday to tell me she’d have some in the next day. I signed on at 1:10, and only 1 pair was remaining out of the 5 she’d put up! She knew I wanted 3 more, though, and that I’d missed out the past few weeks, so she made me 3 more that night and shipped all 4 out the next day. I thought that was really nice of her, especially considering she's pregnant and I could barely get my own act together while pregnant. Shipping was super fast, too.

So, if anyone out there is reading and would love some washable pads that actually feel nice and absorb well, check these out!

Tuesday, March 4, 2008

how i got here.

It's so funny how people can totally affect your life. I had a LiveJournal friend, K, whom I "met" in 2003. She was pregnant, and my babylust was in high gear at the time, and so I absolutely devoured her every post. (Living vicariously through people is fun! Sometimes anyway.) I was obsessed with pregnancy and childbirth, and at the age of 14 I decided I wanted to have a drug-free waterbirth at a birth center. I knew all kinds of stuff about pregnancy and childbirth, and since I focused on developmental psych in college, I knew enough about fetal development and early childhood development. But I didn't really know much about parenting.

K was super into cloth diapering - something I hadn't even considered. Whenever she would mention her cloth diapers, I would look on Google or poke around online to learn more about them. I read all about Fuzzi Bunz and Cotton Babies and all this other stuff and decided I, too, would use cloth diapers. I loved the idea of a comfier diaper for a baby while not contributing more to landfills. In fact, at that point I also switched to cloth sanitary pads for the same basic reasons.

She also was really into attachment parenting, and through her I found Dr. Sears's website, and I ate it up. I would often not do my homework and instead read through sections of his site and daydream about my own future baby. Through K I also learned about babywearing, exclusive breastfeeding, co-sleeping, delaying solids, and all kinds of things I'm not sure I ever would have learned about otherwise. At around this time, I also learned about extended nursing and tandem nursing from another LiveJournal friend, and I thought that was just so cool - I never really knew that people nursed babies beyond infancy, and I especially didn't know that women nursed when pregnant or nursed a baby and a toddler at the same time. I've learned a ton about women's health and babies from the good old Internet.

All this has really affected the way that I looked at parenting before getting pregnant and obviously has impacted how I'm raising Bumblebee. And I'm really happy about that. I feel like what I'm doing right now feels like what I SHOULD be doing. Like it's the best thing for her AND for us. Obviously, if it didn't feel right, we wouldn't do it, and for many people it doesn't feel right. And that's fine. But all this awesome stuff, which I may have never learned about had I not clicked on some random links, feels right for us.

My mom always kinda laughs at me because somehow, SOMEHOW, she parented us without the Internet, gasp of gasps. Now we have access to so much information - sometimes too much, but oh well. It's really incredible.

We don't really raise our children as a community anymore, for the most part, in our culture. But somehow just by typing into a box, I created a community for myself.